Where’s my manual and where’s my tools for motherhood?
Welcome to Life in Harmony
with Arlene Figueroa
Here’s the White-Hot truth:
We’re taught to believe motherhood is the single best experience a woman can have. It’s a privilege to raise other humans, an honor we should be grateful to have in our lives.
Except when it isn’t.
You wake up exhausted. Before your feet hit the floor, your head begins to churn with the day ahead.
You’re never sure you can do what needs to be done, or do it well.
You spend your days putting out fires – kids, emotions, what’s for dinner, groceries, endless laundry, activities, driving duty, diapers, not to mention your career and your relationship with your spouse.
You feel isolated and alone. Overwhelmed, anxious, guilt-ridden.
And – God forbid – you actually admit how you feel. No one does that. No one wants to hear about it.
Soon, it’s a quiet crisis.
No matter how much you give and provide, there is a towering pile of more they need.
And then the thoughts begin…
I should have been there.
I should be doing more.
I should be doing better.
I shouldn’t feel this way.
What’s wrong with me?
You’re not broken.
You’re not selfish.
You’re not supposed to be perfect.
I know this because I’ve been there.
As a mom of three kids – two of whom have type 1 auto-immune diabetes – I found myself constantly worried they could literally die. I home-schooled. I monitored blood sugar 24/7. I spent countless hours researching nutrition. I immersed myself into creating what I thought was a perfect persona. I was going to be the best mom who ever lived. A tireless warrior.
And all those massive expectations led me to spiral way deep down.
I lost myself. I was in chronic overwhelm.
What I learned was that parenthood, by definition, means there is not always sense of completion or achievement in the everyday. Kids are loud and messy and with an amazing ability to never stop moving. And they should. It’s how they grow.
But my expectation of perfection (a perceived ideal), my need to check off boxes each day and tell myself I was the best, that’s what almost destroyed me.
See, as long as you believe it’s possible to be a “perfect mom” you will continue to strive for it.
And the belief fosters a sense of never being enough.
No matter how hard you try, you never know if it is good enough.
Compound this with society’s unspoken rule: Your a mom. It’s selfish to take care of yourself ahead of your family. Give everything to your kids and keep your mouth shut. No one cares what you want. Toughen up. You signed up for this.
My mission is to help moms understand that it’s a pack of lies. There is a better way. Motherhood can be done differently. But it can’t begin until you admit how you feel (to yourself first) and take action.
Is it time for you to give yourself permission to be real? To admit you have needs and they deserve to be met?
I can show you how.
I’m Arlene (mother of 3) and I’m here to walk you out of that pain and into a life that feels amazing.
It’s not about doing more, It’s about doing better.
It’s not about doing more, it’s about doing better.
Here we cover the essentials for women’s wellness, the Art of Self-Care, and the science behind it…
Start putting a few tools in your box now.
“restore JOY, reclaim Sanity, revitalize YOU” – Self-Care is not Selfish
3 Steps to feel good now (and give yourself a break)
Say YES to YOU!
Work with Arlene
The Signature Course
~ Roots & Wings:
6 Foundations of Self-Care
For the mom who’s ready to step out of chaos and into calm.
Find clarity around the new right step for YOU in your journey to self-renewal.