February 2015…

If I didn’t witness it for myself, I would not have fully believed it.

We did a 21-day energy experiment in our house. It’s my desire (desperation) to get my oldest two children to give up the bickering that plagues our lives on a near-daily basis.

I have three little people ages 10, 8, and 7. My 7-year-old has a pearl of inherent wisdom about her. She’s very content and happy. She’s our ‘glue’ because no one fights with her. She just doesn’t put herself out there for it.

My other two are at each other’s throats frequently. It’s a battle for the last word or who’s first or I TOLD YOU SO! It is love/hate all the way. It’s nothing I’ve ever fostered. They just came out that way.

So I decided to try an experiment I saw. We cut an apple in half and placed the halves in separate containers. We treated one with love and kindness and all good things. Then we cursed the other one with everything bad. What’s the worst that can happen I thought?

Well to my surprise here’s what happened…

First, I was not even anticipating the insight I would get through listening to the words my children used to speak to the apples. I would hear them loving up the ‘good apple’ with sweet tender words of praise. Then, I would hear them turn to the ‘bad apple’ with words of disdain and anger.  I was shocked when I heard about how bad the ‘bad apple’ was. Shame and blame filled with plenty of anger got directed towards this poor little bad apple.

And do you know what?

Some of the words sounded way too familiar as I listened to them spew from my children’s mouths and I thought OMG that’s me!? I heard things that I was not proud to have said. Things that came out on days when life was feeling heavy and the filter was off. When the part of you that’s exhausted got to say so and it wasn’t the best choice. Ouch!

And here’s what I learned from this experiment.

It was ALL very enlightening. I got a wake-up call that spoke to my core. It let me know without a shadow of a doubt that words matter, our emotional energy matters, intentionally leading and loving my children from within a healthy core (because I’m taking care of myself) matters. It all matters.  And it will ALL be remembered.

And here’s the other really cool thing that happened.

It worked!

Even when we can’t see the energy, it’s there. My kids witnessed a lesson in the power of words through an apple of all things??? And they are more aware of the energy they are putting out towards each other and into the world. It’s not perfect (nothing ever is), but a seed was planted with plenty of room to grow, and that’s what matters the most. The possibility of growth towards something that we want more of. We all learned quite a bit about how to foster vital growth.

This experiment was all the proof positive I/we needed to understand the power of words (energy).